Showing posts with label Michele Woodward. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Michele Woodward. Show all posts

Monday, September 13, 2010

I Am Not Superwoman... or Am I?

Book 46: I Am Not Superwoman
Further Essays on Happier Living
Michele Woodward

Back in June, I read Michele's first book.  I didn't intend to review an author more than once in the blog this year, at least not in close succession, but sometimes life intervenes and here I am, finding myself doing exactly that.


In the interest of full disclosure, Michele sent me this autographed copy of her book, for which I am grateful.  If I had hated it, I would have found a reason to not write about it.  So what I'm saying here is truly what I think, but I can't have y'all thinking I'll say nice things just because someone gives me a book.


With that out of the way, I'll tell you why I am a content reader.  When you're in the right headspace, I think things happen because you need them or are ready for them. This has been a huge year of change for me on a personal level (more on that another day) and one of the things that I did was start reading more from life coaches and people who appear to have it all figured out.  I learned that they tend to come at you with a good dose of common sense.  


In Superwoman, Woodward uses her trademark conversational yet funny style to give people- primarily women- the tools to get past the constant pressure to be perfect and instead, be happy.  No, she doesn't have a spell, or a fairy godmother, or a detailed instruction list telling us exactly how to get from feeling the pressure to be superwoman to embracing being just us, but happy.


Instead, she gives readers the tools identify what's not working and suggestions around ways to change whatever it is that is blocking us. Sometimes the things we have to look at are a bit uncomfortable. Like figuring out what makes us feel stuck, or why we feel afraid of change, or why it's important that we know how to manage our money.  The point is, she gets readers thinking about things. Often from a new or different perspective, which has the power to change one's whole perception of life and its possibilities.


Most importantly, she talks about her own need to ask for help sometimes, and her own uncertainties.  Like when she needed help decluttering an area of her house, and brought in a professional to assist.  She talks about examining the "why" that is the reason we do anything.  Making sure it is the right "why's" owning us. All this without being condescending, dismissive, or judgmental.


The essays are the perfect length to read when you just a have a few minutes, or when you need some quick motivation or inspiration.  And yes, this book has Superwoman in the title and is geared toward women. But there's plenty in it for the guys, too.


After this year, and this reading, I've adopted a new definition of  Superwoman: It's being me, being authentic; making deliberate choices for the right reasons, and not being afraid to go after my bliss.


You can get your own copy of I Am Not Superwoman here: http://lifeframeworks.com/

Saturday, June 19, 2010

Book 34: Lose Weight, Find Love, De-Clutter and Save Money: Essays on Happiness

In U2's Mofo, Bono sings about "...looking for to fill that God-shaped hole..." That phrase kept running through my head when I read back through the list of selections I've blogged this year. I noticed I have a few books around turning away from traditional religion, and books on personal growth and finding happiness.  I think these things are all related. When you've learned that what you're looking to fill isn't a God-shaped hole after all, you have to face that fact that you just aren't happy.  You can decide to accept that and go on, living a grey and bland life, or you can ask and answer the hard questions and figure out how to be happy.

The last few years brought me to that point. I had read a couple of good books about taking the next steps (http://thebookfetish-mybookfetish.blogspot.com/2010/02/book-9-finding-your-own-north-star.html and http://thebookfetish-mybookfetish.blogspot.com/2010/04/book-20-happiness-project.html) and I decided it was time to take action.  I began working with a wonderful Life Coach, Carrie Tallman (http://carrietallman.com/) and I learned so much from her that within three weeks of us working together, I began to see changes in my life.

At the end of our coaching, Carrie recommended I check out Michele Woodward's website (http://lifeframeworks.com/) for a couple of reasons. First, Michele previously worked in politics, something in which I am avidly interested. Second, Carrie thought I would like Michele's website and newsletter styles.  Carrie was right.

After reading several of Michele's newsletters, I decided to check out her book of essays, Lose Weight, Find Love, De-Clutter and Save Money. This book is not a quick fix solution to anything. Instead, this compilation of essays offers insightful ways into taking charge of our thoughts and actions, to affect the change that we want. While it is easy to be cynical about how thoughts can affect change, it is really so simple that it is profound.  In an essay on "Clarity of Purpose" Woodward documents a decision tree of an typical client: 'If I acknowledge what I feel, people will be mad --> they will leave me -->I will be all by myself -->I will die alone --> I am not good enough for anyone to love --> I do not matter (p98)'.  When you feel like this,  and this is how I felt when I started working with Carrie, coaching can  and does help, but equally as important, understanding and focusing on what is really important can help you be happier. 

In other essays, Woodward offers thoughts on the art of being lazy, on being able to disconnect, on how we disengage and multiply our own stress by continually feeling compelled to multitask.  She talks about how to say no when you really want to say no- really, following the things that make you feel you are your most authentic and genuine person.  Not surprisingly, some of the Zen Buddhist things I liked learning in my previous post are recounted here as well.

Woodward's style is conversational, not condescending.  I could picture us sitting across a table from each other just chatting about these topics over a cup of tea or a glass of wine.  She doesn't come across as intimidatingly enlightened-instead, as someone who you can look to and say, she's got a way to figuring things out that just might benefit me.  

For anyone who is contemplating how to find more balance, learning to be your true self, learning to be happier, I'd recommend both Michele's site and this book.